My Dad Does Drugs…? What Do I Do?

Question by kelssssey: my dad does drugs…? what do i do?
my mom told me that my dad is addicted to crack and has been for 10 years now. she told me he would leave the house and never come back for 3 days almost. he locked himself in the house and did it. we would always have to go find my dad in albany crack houses when i was little (like 5) and shes telling me this while im 15. she said she would stay up and look out the window and cry all nught about it when he left.. and he never even came back when she watched. she said he was so terrible and i dont know if i should be sad about it or what? i am really upset and its scary when i think about it. she thought he stopped but ive read his texts(ik im sneaky… :/) and he gets messages from dealers(i can tell)

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Answer by J The Supper
Confront your dad. Tell him you know. And how much its tearing your family apart, if he doesn’t give in. Beg. Tell him to go get hep, and that you will help him every step of the way. Say that you love him, and about the thing with you mom. Look up a bunch of helpful info about people who have quit. Maybe you could call them up to come and see your dad. To talk to you him. If that doesn’t work, then i know you will hate to do this but, warn him that you will turn him in, only for the best. No luck then, then do what you said and turn him in. Hope this helps. You will be in my prays.

Answer by WhatThaF?
Your mom needs to be a mom and deal with the problem. If my husband were doing drugs, I would not let him in my child’s life until he got clean (not to punish him, but to help him). I am very sad for you. You have every right to be scared. Sometimes, we like to see our parents as perfect people but at the end of the day, no matter how hard they try, they are just people…doing the best they can, trying to get by and maintain a little bit of happiness in their lives.
If your dad is doing drugs, that is not ok. Perhaps you could use your creativity to come up with some way of approaching him about it in a non-threatening way. For example, you could talk about “sometihng you saw on the news” or about how a friend’s dad went to jail for using drugs and how her family is all messed up now, or maybe you could say you are doing a project for school.
I know it sounds silly, but it might help him think about this behavior in a different way. Parents often get so good at taking care of their kids, they often forget to take care of themselves. In all reality, I am sure that if your dad DOES take drugs, he doesn’t realize that it would affect you. Now if YOU were the one who was affected by it or lets say he thought of the idea of YOU taking the same drug, he would think about it a whole lot differently.
Its a hard situation, kiddo. I am very sorry. Just try to remember that your dad still loves you and your mom. Drugs have a way of taking over, even the strongest people. Drug addiction is a disease. Your dad needs help, just like a sick person needs help to get better.
The only thing I can say is that taking drugs is not ok. It is not acceptable. It ruins families and lives. He needs to know (especially from your mother) that it is not ok. He is a good person, but the drugs have to go. I highly recommend that you talk to a school counselor. My school counselor helped me so much, you have no idea. Plus, if you are having a bad day, you can always leave class to go talk. There is a whole world full of caring people that want to see you happy and healthy. All you have to do is let them in. Good luck. Be strong.